I'm amazed at how certain members of the religious community can be "against" or "hate" people with a medical condition like Gender Dysphoria? History will judge those people harshly and they will be categorized along with the witch burners and Spanish Inquisition armies who tried to vanquish misunderstood communities in their day. GD is not a philosophical science. It's based on hard cold facts you can measure in a Petri dish and see under a microscope. You can see it on a CT scan or an MRI. What is wrong with you people? GD is a medical condition. It's real and the Religious community and the Pope need to get over it.
It seems as though we could do with an education on this subject and thankfully people are listening and hearing. But in 2016 our country got "stuck on stupid." Our collective conciseness was stymied a bit and all we wanted to do was rage against people who were different than us. Normally law abiding public official succumbed to the idea that power and control was more important than compromise and compassion.
They built a wall around the mother ship in the peoples' house to protect the Sithe. When the voices of progress tried to speak they were stonewalled; however, the wall that they built is coming down and will crash and burn around them. That's when the voices of sanity, acceptance and love will wash the land again and we will go back to compromise, compassion and unity not division.
Sometimes you have to refocus your life, and then readjust the road you're traveling and renew your desire to live life to its fullest, while contemplating the choices that lie ahead of you, as you make your way towards your new path.
Then comes the leap of faith aspect of what might or might not happen on your new journey. Sometimes you can plan all you want, but where does faith enter into the equation? I think Faith is there from the start. Along with hope, faith can move mountains out of your way and blaze a trail for you in the darkness. Prayer is like a beacon of light, guiding you in the right direction.
Clarity of purpose also comes into focus. Having lived half my life on this earth in-congruent, (perceived gender didn't match my assigned gender) the greatest gift of congruity (perceived gender matches my assigned gender) was given to me at age 51. My hope is that the second half of my life can have greater purpose and meaning than the first; however, sometimes I'm not sure what to do next.
After receiving this gift, I've asked myself, what shall I do with it? As I walk this new path, the evidence of my past incongruity shows and it hurts. I should have been given this gift earlier in my life. But people in those days didn't know or understand that having this gift meant peace, harmony, self love and acceptance for people like me. Many still don't understand and most don't give a rat’s behind.
My mother always said, "You can't cry over spilled milk." Ministers said, "Be thankful for what you got." But my heart says that's not enough. When the signs of my in-congruent past are noticed and comments are made, I'm told to get over it. That's when the frustration hits home and I regret that my gender reassignment didn't happen sooner.
Some people say it's my own fault and it was my choices that kept it (the gift) from coming sooner. I say codswallop. The choices I made early on were to stay alive. Keep a roof over my head; make my parents and society happy by not complaining or pushing the status quo. When I started to push back I was subtly warned not to step out of line by society, my family and friends. "Why can't you be gay?" Mom said to me. "I can't live my life knowing that you are this way." "I'd rather be dead."
I am convinced however, that if my mom knew then what we know now about Gender Identity Dysphoria (GID), she would have been supportive. She would have been as supportive as she was about my Dyslexia, Dysgraphia and other (learning disabilities) growing up.
My mother was into facts and data. If you could prove your case, then you had her blessing. Maybe she didn't know the gift I wanted existed nor had a name? If she didn't, then I forgive her for not knowing. If she knew, but was told that it was evil and a sin, then shame on her for being so gullible.
As I'm writing this blog I realize how resilient I am to have gone through life with so many labels and to still be standing. I won't deny that there is a force greater than myself or any human being for that matter guiding me, loving me, and leading the way. The so called experts told me that I wouldn't overcome the challenges I had nor be successful in life. I did overcome, I am successful and I will always be kind and humble to others.
So with this new life and attitude, let me introduce myself. My name is Síle Michaela Kelleher. I'm a congruent female. I lived as an in-congruent female for 51 years. I'm an actress, filmmaker, parent, mom, writer, editor, with learning disabilities who's overcome a lot of BS.
I've been knocked down beat down many times in my life, but I keep getting up. As Elton John said, "I'm still standing." I'm grateful to be alive and I don't want to spend another moment living in pity or regret. Life is too short to worry or fret about the past. I choose not to waste another moment thinking about what could have or should have been, I'm focused on what can be!
Sometimes you have to dance to your own drum even if you're in the same band with others who disagree with you. Don't follow people off cliffs. Stand up for yourself but not at the risk of looking foolish. Whatever you do, keep your cool. Don't loose your self respect.
Also stay in the game. Sometimes things seem worse than they are. If you have set backs you make comebacks until you reach the shores of the divine.
Love and forgiveness don't mean that you loose yourself it means you break through to the other side and spend eternity in peaceful contemplation, knowing you're on the right track.
I thought it was a good debate. Jose Castro didn't do himself any favors by attacking Joe Biden. It's only going to help Biden win more support. But I will not "pile on" as I mentioned in my last post. Let's hope that whoever wins they can beat Donald Trump.
I thought that Kamala made somewhat of a comeback and would make a good VP. Amy Klobuchar did great, as did Mayor Pete. Corey also shined. Warren was calm, cool, collected and informative. Joe fought hard. The protestors helped his cause. He ended the night on a high note in his closing remarks. Beto is raw talent and has true passion and would make a good VP or Texas Senator.
The majority of the night allowed them the be themselves and a bit vulnerable. Unity one the night. It's about time!
I'm hoping that you all have a great week. With all the crap going on in this world, we can still find the good in it. Namely, the good we can find in people we meet everyday. We have a chance to make this world a better place when we practice being kind to others. Even the one's who are stinkers.
We should make forgiveness the first place we go to when someone does us wrong. However, they're some things that are unforgivable. I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about the easy "no brainer" kind. By forgiving others we have the power, they don't. Let go of hate, because it will only eat you up inside.
Sometimes on social media we tend to want to "pile on" when someone is in trouble. Some things are good humored and innocent and others aren't so innocent. Let's stop wishing people ill. Let's hope they learn their lessons when agencies and law enforcement catch them. If they're guilty of a crime, let's hope they suffer the consequences. But in the long run, let's do unto others as we would have done to us.
I'm the first to say that I'm one of those "pile on people." I hope to change that. Let's be civilized and gracious and kind. These are principals God has set forth for us to live by. To love one another. I'm not saying it's easy to do, because I struggle with it everyday. It can be done.
We're all trying to get along in this world and the ultimate end we will all experience is death. So let's live each day as if it's our last and hope that our legacy shows us to have been on the right (or correct) side of history. That doesn't mean not to fight like heck for what we believe in, but to do it in such a way as to make a lasting impression on society.
is a Filmmaker, Actress & Parent.